Building resilience in children and teens: giving kids roots and wings

Part 1. Resilience and stress. Why resilience?

Stress and its effects

Ingredients of resilience: 7 crucial C's

Not letting others undermine your child's resilience (or psych you out!). Part 2. Competence and confidence. Getting out of the way

The value of play

Noticing, praising, and criticizing

Authentic success

Thinking clearly

No more lectures

"I get it!"

Changing behavior step-by step

Shifting the blame to save face

Media literacy

Not being broken

Building confidence. Part 3. Connection, character, and contribution. Connection

The art and importance of listening

Strengthening family ties

Widening the circle

Some cautions about connection

Supporting resilience in military families

Nurturant connections offer meaningful protection against the effects of childhood trauma

Character

Grit: the character trait that drives performance

Contribution. Part 4. Coping. Getting a grip on stress

Taking action

Taking care of your body

Taking care of your emotions. Part 5. Control. Styles of discipline

Positive discipline strategies

Increasing kids' control

Delaying gratification

Preparing our families for lifelong interdependence

One rung at a time

Not everything is within our control. Part 6. When resilience is challenged beyond reasonable limits. Extreme circumstances

Turning for help

When your own resilience reaches its limits. Part 7. Especially for communities and individual teens. Community-based resilience-building strategies

Just for kids: a personalized guide for managing stress

Parting thoughts.